August 27, 2009
Posted: 618 GMT

Looking back at my first impression of Nujood Ali and her incredible act of defiance, I was very naive.

Nujood Ali rebelled against culture, religion and government.
Nujood Ali rebelled against culture, religion and government.

Like Nujood herself, I thought the mere act of demanding a divorce and getting one would 'fix' her life and allow her to return and remain in the embrace of her family.

The complexity of Nujood's life is quite daunting to fathom now. At the age of 10, she defied her husband, his family and crucially, her own family to divorce her husband and return to the innocent life she so missed.

But after following Nujood's story for more than a year now, it is far from a simple portrait of victory and triumph.

The key to Nujood's life now is that she lives very much like an outcast in her community. The fame and the media attention have made her a choice topic for gossiping neighbors.

The fact is, some in Yemen see nothing wrong with marrying off a 10-year-old girl. And so what she did, and the notoriety that followed, was seen by some as a threat to how things are and how they should stay.

While we in the Western media celebrated Nujood's courage, some in her own extended family questioned her rebellious act.

Nujood has said that her father, her brothers and her uncles have all expressed their displeasure at having her story exposed and publicized.

So where does all this leave Nujood now? I'm not quite sure. CNN producer Elwazer Schams has followed Nujood's story now for months.

In repeated calls to concerned human rights campaigners, lawyers, the judge involved in the case and government officials there has been precious little clarity about Nujood’s future.

Apparently, there is some type of a scholarship fund set up for education, but Nujood's school attendance has been sporadic in part because, her attorney says, her family has not supported her education whole-heartedly.

It's clear Nujood and her family believed being famous would earn them a fortune. It hasn't. Some have said to me that Nujood has been victimized twice by her family.

First, Nujood was forced into an early marriage she did not want and later into a publicity frenzy that her family believed would make them thousands of dollars.

Whatever the truth, Nujood has been hurt and very little in her life has changed for the better.

This has been a difficult but important story to tell for all these months. Verifying the facts of what happened to Nujood has been daunting but it has been insightful.

At its core, though, this is a real and gritty story about what it means to rebel against cultures, religion and government.

Nujood is very confused and angry and is far from living out the childhood all young girls deserve.

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Muqaddam Khan   August 27th, 2009 1159 GMT

It is unjust. Such parents and husbands should be punished. The government should act and pass laws to prevet such marriages in future.

Michelle   August 27th, 2009 1221 GMT

This is very disturbing. Regardless of what religion or where you are from, you must see that this is a violation. To top it off, they violated her, didn't ask Nujood if she wanted to be married. To me, they have no honor, all of the adults who are involved with this case. To top it off, she hadn't even gone through her menstruation!

That in itself is a violation.

Has she expressed leaving her family, or even her country? Is she able to? Is someone able to adopt her, to let her live the life she was suppose to live?

I fully believe she was meant to do this, but she was not meant to be punished by her family or even her society.

Jessica   August 27th, 2009 1613 GMT

How can we as Americans ignore what we ourselves fought so vigorously for!? As American women, we too know the pain of this poor child, some of us so much more than others... If we, as a nation, agree to help a child of all people out of a situation as horrifying as this then we should be a nation of our word. If we are to come to peace with countries of the Middle East how are they going to look at us when we cannot keep our word. We were once a nation that had nothing more than that. And now we don't even have that. We don't deserve to be called civilized! Think of the children, think of women everywhere! Think of our own struggle! Are we really going to let this get worse than it already is!????

joan,uganda   August 27th, 2009 1643 GMT

what is happening in yemen to these young girls is not only unfair but barbaric.The world must not turn its back on this,whomever can do something about this should,or this generation will be destroyed.I feel so......... ashamed to be apart of a world which is doing this to children.

LLBD   August 27th, 2009 1725 GMT

Nujood's family: trying to make money off a little girl's misery is a sad case indeed. This is their child, they should be happy that she is intelligent enough to know she wants a normal childhood. They have made sure its not normal, but full of trouble and sadness. This is a sad realization for girls in the Muslim world, that they are property and not treated like human beings. They deserve the same rights and responsibilities as all other humans, but they are denied even a free breath of air. If I were able, I would bring Nujood to my home, and raise her as she wishes to be raised. She deserves to be the little girl she is. And allow her to grow up into womanhood without fear of being raped repeatedly by a dirty minded old man.

jb   August 27th, 2009 2007 GMT

I pray this young lady will at least get to enjoy her childhood and not be ostracized by her own family and friends. This will definitely have a negative affect on her the rest of her days. The flip side though is when you dealing with other cultures and religions we have to be careful and respectful to try not to impose what we (America) think should be the norm. Much blessings to that little girl!!!!!

Beatrice   August 27th, 2009 2111 GMT

What an incredible courage! I am appalled! And those men (who think they are people of God) who say they don't see anything wrong with marrying a 10 years old!!!!
It is really upsetting! There is no other word for it, it is allowing pedophelia!

I was molested as a child. Sex at a too early age is damaging! It is wrong! Period!

My heart go to Nujood! She might become a new generation of women of Islam. I hope so!

Zahra   August 28th, 2009 234 GMT

Of course Nujood is angry. She was betrayed by her parents and forced into a marriage she didn't want. She was betrayed by the lecherous creep she was married to. Betrayal like that cuts very, very deep.

She may now be safe from his clutches and abuse, but she's become an object of derison in an ultra-conservative society, where Muslim women spent their entire lives protecting themselves from being tainted by gossip. Unfortunately it's just another form of controlling women that my religion needs to get over.

People in her family and neighbourhood are unable to empathize because what's happened to her is so outside their realm of cultural expectations and experience, they don't know how to handle it.

Of course she has been victimised twice by her family. No need to be coy about it. To be apologetic about saying so, is enabliing the perpetrators.

What has happened to Nujood is outside the boundaries and cultural norms of ultra-conservative Yemen society. Her family hasn't changed, but she has. What she will need, and will continue to need for years, is an advocate or advocates who can mediate for the child yet who is/are also able to negotiate with the family and understand where they are coming from. Diplomacy at its most delicate.

It's unlikely her family will be vigilant about her education. It's not in the culture.

CNN also needs to understand something loud and clear. Paula Newton describes how reluctant Nujood was to sit down and talk with her, even though there had been a prior arrangement to do so. What arrogance! Can you blame her? She's been coerced by too many people in her life, and CNN should have respected this little girl and backed off from the interview. What did you think? You were doing it for the girl's own good? It strikes me too many people have had the breathaking arrogance to believe that.

Stephanie   August 28th, 2009 1500 GMT

Does anyone have any idea of how she can be helped?

Karen   August 28th, 2009 2045 GMT

Not sure if her mother was for or against this. Maybe the mother did not have a choice but to listen to the males in the family. I cannot believe that a mother would willingly let her daughter be married off to a older man. Does this little girl have any other sister and what will happen to them?
My heart goes out to Nujood. I wish that I could adopt her and raise her with love and happiness.

Good luch Nujood.

patrice r yantz   September 16th, 2009 1443 GMT

G-d help me,I can't even sleep at night worrying about this child for the past year.Will someone please tell me how I can help her?If I win the lottery,G-D as my witness,I will personaly get on a plane to Yemen and take Nujood and her little sister home with me and my 2 daughters,where she can live as a human being and not someones slave.

Mona   September 16th, 2009 1659 GMT

I don't understand how people can just expect her to pick up where she left off. She has been raped! Apparently brutally and repeatedly. If this were a child in America we wouldnt' just ask them to go back to school as if everything was okay because they were no longer being attacked. Nor would we be at all surprised if they were angry. While I understand that the society she lives in might not realize the trauma she has endured, it should be mentioned here in this article. Not receiving psychological support to unravel the complex ways she has been abused is going to be one of her biggest challenges for years to come. Why no mention of this aspect?

Word of Peace   September 17th, 2009 1022 GMT

I feel total sympathy for this young child for what she's been through.I can imagine how strong this individual is.But I only pray for her that the media leave her alone,as though gossiping isn;'t enough for her.Here in the states we're facing extremely high rape and murder rates.Shouldn't we try to mind our business and work on improving our own country.We're making this one of the top stories to disgrace a population meanwhile we have girls as young as 8 losing their virginity.What if one of these girls got pregnant and had to die giving birth.Then there will be no attention given in such a case.

gardenlobster   September 17th, 2009 1813 GMT

I find it rather disturbing that people keep referring to this as a "marriage." The child was trafficked to a pedophile who molested her. Let's call it for what it is. Her "family" has been attempting to sell and whore her out in one form or another the whole time – first to the sicko pedophile who purchased her as a "wife" and then to attempt to sell her story to the media. Then they get pissed that they couldn't get rich off selling her? That's extremely immoral, no matter what your religion or non-religion. The Western world needs to do something if they ever want to curb child sex slavery and pornography. It's cultures like this that make it possible. If her parents aren't caring for her, why can't someone adopt her? Aren't there international agreements to protect children from predators? If not, I hope this story inspires leaders to do something.

Kathleen Thomas   September 17th, 2009 1858 GMT

In this country, we drive SUV's not realizing that we are directly funding this child rape. We NEED to recognize that our waste and greed pays for the governments that allow the abuse of women and children.

bwana   September 20th, 2009 048 GMT

Zahra said it far better than I can, "What arrogance (by CNN)! Can you blame her? She’s been coerced by too many people in her life, and CNN should have respected this little girl and backed off from the interview. What did you think? You were doing it for the girl’s own good?".

No CNN, your were not doing it for Nujood's good. You were doing it for ratings. Stories like this (far to common) make for great copy! They don't normally assist the victim.

International attention is good, if employed with a full understanding of the issues and cultures involved. Yemen is not the USA AND remember people in the USA did not receive all of their freedoms on day one. It took a while...

Sir No Name   September 20th, 2009 429 GMT

Be it East or West all religions suck!!!

The End.

afk   September 20th, 2009 1047 GMT

maybe angelina jolie or obama can adopt and save her, that would be great

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